Thursday, October 21, 2010

A Mommy First ..

... and "Emily" second.

Is this how it should be? Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter. Like to the end of the earth, buckets of puppies, cheesecake with cherries on top, LUUUUUV my daughter. How could I not? Seriously, look at this pictures. How can YOU not love her?

I've been struggling for the past week or so dealing with the fact that Emily, at least the version of me for the past 26 years or so, is on the back burner. All those things that are distinctly "me," my singing, writing, blogging, reading poetry, painting, even running (never thought I would miss that!) have somehow fallen away. I am now MOM, and I'm a damn good one

Now live in clothes that have been puked on way too many times to count. My ears are now super-human in their capability to withstand hours .. and I do mean hours .. of a screaming infant. My hands are now used to wash endless amount of bottles, diapers, and binks. My mind now relishes the 10 minutes I get in the shower, because let's face it - that's about the extent of "alone time" I get these days.

I've even missed the Fitblog chat for the last month. (I swear this child just knows when the first question gets thrown out.)

I know those of you with out children might relate to this busy-bee schedule as well. I also work all day and my fiance works at night. Where do we find time for ourselves? I definitely don't have any answers. I know that I would like to find time for me. Even if it's just an hour a day. So I'm asking your help ... WHAT DO YOU DO??

Do you set the alarm early and drag your exhausted body out of bed? Do you have a friend come by and watch your kiddo for awhile every week? Do you use your lunch break at work to blog?

Help a sista out! :)


  1. I don't have any children of my own, but I do volunteer to watch my best friend's little boy when she needs a break. He comes and stays with us overnight and she gets to have some me time. As for a hectic schedule, I use my breaks and lunchtime to catch up with blogs and to write blogs. I hope you get a break for some Me time, it's important not to forget about yourself.

  2. I don't have kids, but I do take a little time each morning to enjoy my coffee and blogs in silence. The house is quiet and still, and everything just seems favorite time of the day!

  3. Well now that my kiddo is older and keeps a regular sleep schedule, I get some me time in after he goes down for the night. But when he was little, I had wonderful friends (like you lady!! ) help out here and there to get some time. Albeit that was usually to work, so my 'me time' was also my time in the car, but at that age, any thing helps! :)

  4. I do not have kids, but I AM super busy. I wake up at 5. That's it. I seriously get a jump on the day, and I LOVE it.

    that is a great photo - she truly is adorable!

  5. When they are that young, it's hard. And with opposing schedules like that it's even harder. I think all you can do is reserve her nap times and quiet times for stuff that is YOU stuff, not laundry or cleaning a bathroom. It's truly the only time you get each day and you never know when it will end so use it to own a bit of your day.

    It gets easier as they get older but then you have to let them go into the world. That is another challenge in itself. It's like giving your heart legs and hoping it's going to be ok while it runs away from you.

  6. What a beautiful little girl you have! :-)

  7. I don't work at the moment and therefore I am able to spend all day with kids. And all day means no me time at all. I even told my hubby that it's hard enough being needed by kids all day long that when he comes home from work it bugs me when he "needs" me too! I just need some time to myself! The only alone time I get is in the shower. So now he has taken to taking Sean (my 2 month old) downstairs with him so I can do things in the evenings after the girls go to bed. At this age, it is so difficult to find yourself because they are so dependent on you. However, within a year (hopefully less!) they will have a bedtime that leaves you time for yourself. Sean is already working on this...his last feeding of the day is around 9, so after 10 I can do things for myself for about an hour. I also agree with Rita, make sure that when you have the time available, USE IT! Sometimes getting quality time to yourself means the dishes don't get done tonight. And it's definitely worth it!


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